back on the road again...

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

i was doing devotional on a christian website and i came across this article about forgiveness:

"Unconditional forgiveness is canceling a debt to all those who intentionally offend us, whether or not they own up to what they have done. Offering forgiveness without repentance, however, does not follow the biblical model of forgiveness (Luke 17:3,4).
An unrepentant person maintains a sense of control over his life through pride, which can lead to destruction, violence, and animosity (Proverbs 8:13; 16:18; 29:23). If as believers we don't require repentance on the part of the offender, we stand in the way of that person's coming to see his need for God and experiencing His forgiveness. To put it simply, forgiveness is a two-way process: repentance on the part of the offender and pardon on the part of the offended.
When only one part of the forgiveness process takes place, the hurt felt by the offended one can lead to hatred, bitterness, and desire for revenge. Because we desperately want relief from the gnawing desire to get even, we can be tempted to let an issue go, or "forgive" without ever confronting the person or waiting for him to show remorse.
In many cases, it is more loving to withhold forgiveness until a change of heart by the offender is demonstrated than it is to offer forgiveness without the offender's acknowledgement of deliberate wrongdoing."

ZAC! see? i told u there's no point in forgiving when the person doesnt even show a single sense of remorse. it's MORE LOVING to only forgive when the person knows he/she is wrong. haa. see?? all along i've been doing the right thing. i really do forgive when the person is seriously sorry. but when he/she is not, there's simply no point. and u always say im revengeful. im only like that if the person doesnt admit his/her wrongdoings.

12:11 AM